A friend and I met for a catch up lunch a month or two ago. As she arrived at the table, she complimented me on my outfit. I was having a bad hair/face/body day, and so – perhaps typically as a woman – I protested.
“No!” she declared. “You can’t do that!” And she proceeded to lecture me on taking a compliment when it was offered. She wouldn’t have said I was looking good if I wasn’t, she said indignantly. She wouldn’t have said anything.
She had a point, and so I thanked her. She then told me that this was one of her resolutions for 2014 – to be honest, and to tell people what they needed to hear (nicely, of course). She had already advised other friends
1) to do something if they really wanted to, if there was no good reason not to do so, and
2) to ask for help if they needed it, and not to struggle on alone.
All good advice. I loved this idea for a resolution, because it is so simple, and yet so very kind. Because these are the types of things we often cannot see ourselves. So I am going to try to do this too, for at least one other person in the next year.
And as an afterthought, I don’t know if she had seen this, but it appeared on my FB feed not long after. Clearly I am not the only one to be awkward, dare I say ungracious, in the face of a compliment.