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A friend and I met for a catch up lunch a month or two ago.  As she arrived at the table, she complimented me on my outfit.  I was having a bad hair/face/body day, and so – perhaps typically as a woman – I protested.

“No!” she declared.  “You can’t do that!”  And she proceeded to lecture me on taking a compliment when it was offered.  She wouldn’t have said I was looking good if I wasn’t, she said indignantly.  She wouldn’t have said anything.

She had a point, and so I thanked her.  She then told me that this was one of her resolutions for 2014 – to be honest, and to tell people what they needed to hear (nicely, of course).  She had already advised other friends

1)      to do something if they really wanted to, if there was no good reason not to do so, and

2)      to ask for help if they needed it, and not to struggle on alone.

All good advice.  I loved this idea for a resolution, because it is so simple, and yet so very kind.  Because these are the types of things we often cannot see ourselves.  So I am going to try to do this too, for at least one other person in the next year.

And as an afterthought, I don’t know if she had seen this, but it appeared on my FB feed not long after.  Clearly I am not the only one to be awkward, dare I say ungracious, in the face of a compliment.

 

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In January last year, I wrote some thoughts about how I wanted this year to be.  I figure it’s worth checking to see how I did.  I suspect it is pretty disastrous.  I know it is.  But I’m going to report anyway.

  1. First, the perennials  :  lose weight, get fitter, keep house tidy, drink less (well, no, not really – but perhaps drink only when I really want to/enjoy what I’m drinking), save money or win Lotto.  Well, I did tidy up the house a bit, and we did drink less.  The rest – well, I was fitter in the middle of the year but not now, as my own middle has expanded somewhat and I’m working hard at the gym to stop that expansion.  Spent too much money on our South Africa trip, and that darn Lotto win continues to elude me, and I did try rather hard this year.
  1. Do something more public with my writing.  Hmmm.  Mission accomplished.  Sort of.  Need to do more.
  2. Finish Writing Project A.  Mission not accomplished, because I discovered Writing Project B.  Neither Project A nor Project B are finished, though I have out a deadline of March for Project B.
  3. Change Travelalphablog into something new when I finish this round of the alphabet.  Mission not accomplished.  Travelalphablog in sad state of neglect.
  4. Make more money.  Nope.  Nada.  What I did make we spent.  Shift to 2013 list.
  5. Improve my Spanish / Chinese (depending on where we decide to go next).  Yes.  Worked on my Spanish a little bit.  Not enough.
  6. Ring my mother more often.  No and yes.  Getting better on that.
  7. Play the piano more. (So that means getting it tuned, too.)   Complete and utter Fail.
  8. Have more patience.  Well – my husband would say I was terrible at this, but on other matters I was better.  So – a tie?
  9. Find a bunch of new recipes – and make them.  Yes.  Sort of.  Though the new recipes are those of the local takeaway shops.  Making them consists of a) speed dial to the pizza shop, or b) sending husband off to fetch them.  I did receive two new recipe books for Christmas though, so I have high hopes for this year.
  10. Finish all those home maintenance jobs we’ve been putting off for so long.  Mission begun, but not yet accomplished.
  11. Be more sociable.  Mission not accomplished.  Status deteriorated.
  12. Walk.  Yes.  A little.  Not enough though.
  13. Photograph.  Yes.  A lot. Want to do more.
  14. Be happy.  Yes.  Reasonably.  But I still let stress get the best of me.

* (I think I drafted this with the 21st Dec in mind, hence the title.)

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New Year … um … somethings

Let me be clear, these are not resolutions – that would mean they are doomed to fail. They probably are anyway, but here are some thoughts about how I want this year to be.

  1. Let’s get the perennials out of the way. You know them well: lose weight, get fitter, keep house tidy, drink less (well, no, not really – but perhaps drink only when I really want to/enjoy what I’m drinking), save money or win Lotto. They’ll all still there. I live in hope/delusion that one day I’ll actually achieve one of them.
  2. Do something more public with my writing. I’m not sure what. But if I don’t put myself out there, it’ll always just be a hobby/procrastination tool. That’s okay, but I’d like to see if it could be something more. Of course, that means I must …
  3. Finish Writing Project A.
  4. Change Travelalphablog into something new (when I finish this round of the alphabet).
  5. Make more money. I’m not getting any younger, retirement age if not bank account is only ten years or so away, and travelling makes for an expensive lifestyle. I have to work more.
  6. Improve my Spanish / Chinese (depending on where we decide to go next).
  7. Ring my mother more often.
  8. Play the piano more. (So that means getting it tuned, too.)
  9. Have more patience.
  10. Find a bunch of new recipes – and make them.
  11. Finish all (most/some of) those home maintenance jobs we’ve been putting off for so long.
  12. Be more sociable. Extend my network of friends. Put myself out there a bit, even when it is uncomfortable.
  13. Walk.
  14. Photograph.
  15. Be happy. It’s mostly a choice, after all.

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