I say “we” a lot. When I talk about my childhood, I often find myself saying “we” meaning my family, or (often) my younger sister and I. These days, I talk about “we” including my husband in the experience, and generally always make it inclusive. I was taught not to focus on myself, or to take too much credit for what I did – such a typical female upbringing. My husband, on the other hand, might, for example, see a photograph and exclaim, “I’ve been there.”
“Goodness,” (or some other suitable word I won’t write here) I will reply, “I wonder who you were there with?”
He doesn’t get it.
Do you experience this too?
Edit: With men OR women?
I don’t know if my fella does this but I’m going to listen out for it! Like toddlers, men are all ego and the centre of their own universes (only joking, Men)
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I guess I didn’t expand (because there’s only so much I can do in eight sentences for my Microblog Monday) to say that I know women who do this too.
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That reminds me, I should really trim down my ‘micro’ blogs
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At some point during my husband’s long siege with dementia I became aware that I had started saying “I” more than “we.” But under normal conditions, gender might be a factor. If I had to guess, I’d say that when he was well he probably used “I” much of the time.
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Oh Susan, I can understand the heart-breaking shift to “I” from “we.”
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I tend to use “we” a lot, as well. I guess I feel I need to be inclusive of everyone that was there-? I haven’t noticed whether my husband does this as much.
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To be honest, I haven’t noticed… but I will from now on, lol. 😉
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